Marnay shares her story of an emergency C-Section, NICU, and her battle with ovarian cancer
"Little did I know as he was fighting for his life, I would be fighting for mine."
When I found out I was pregnant, I was so excited! My first two trimesters were pretty smooth, I constantly craved McDonald's breakfast biscuits and prenatal yoga helped me stay active. However, when I reached the 34 week mark, I started to feel incredible pain in my stomach. I went to the hospital and luckily the baby was fine, and the pain slowly decreased, so I was sent home. However, four days later the pain became unbearable and I was rushed to the hospital for an emergency C-section. My son was immediately sent to the NICU, since his lungs weren't fully developed yet. Little did I know as he was fighting for his life, I would be fighting for mine.
I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer shortly after he was born. I never expected to be navigating a cancer diagnosis at the same time I became a new mom, but I knew I had to fight this for my son. He was so brave in the NICU, growing stronger each day and staying calm amidst all of the chaos. I channeled his strength and bravery and used it to stay strong during the constant doctor appointments and treatments. I lost my hair and gained some new scars, but I never gave up hope and am happy to report I have been cancer free for over two years!
My son and I are both doing great now. He is an energetic, happy, loving toddler and I am a grateful, exhausted, humbled mama. I still admire him for his strength and positivity and use that to fuel me each and every day.
"On the 8th day of Jack's life, he experienced complications and passed away. The heartbreak engulfed my body but my baby was at peace and not experiencing any discomfort or pain anymore. As difficult as this experience was, I am not the only mother to experience it, nor will I be the last."
"It's okay to grieve the birth story you thought you woud have, while also honoring the birth story you have."
"My therapist told me that getting an infertility diagnosis affects your brain the same way as getting a cancer diagnosis. It’s just heartbreak, I guess."